Deal with a Jealous Boyfriend
One of the most common reasons that girls break up with their boyfriends is that these guys become more and more jealous, controlling and possessive. Male jealousy can have many forms, and handling it can be a serious challenge for the women they date. Some guys are so jealous and controlling that they don’t even let their girlfriends go out on their own with their friends, because they are afraid that some other guy will seduce her. Other guys tell their girlfriend what to wear, how to keep their hair, who to hang out with and otherwise trying to control their life.
A woman who is in a relationship with a jealous and controlling guy will sooner or later feel unhappy and suffocated and as a result, she will start losing interest in him.. This is because women love and respect confidence, and jealousy is one of the most prominent signs of lack of confidence. A break-up will be inevitable. Ironically, the stronger the guy’s feelings are and the fewer girls he has been with, the more jealous he is likely to be.
So, why are so many guys acting so jealous and controlling? I believe that this is a combination of two reasons:
1. Jealous Boyfriends Expect Their Girlfriend to be “Perfect”
First, if a guy really likes the girl he is with, he wants everything in that relationship to be perfect, which in his mind means – everything has to be his way. This translates into having an expectation that the girl will be “perfect” in a way that they imagine that perfect to be to be, so they try to adjust who she is, how she acts, and how she lives her life to their own standard of perfection.
2. Guys Get Jealous and Controlling Due to Fear of Loss
The second reason that guys become jealous and controlling is because they are really afraid to lose that special, one of a kind girl, and they feel that if they don’t keep an eye on her at all times, she is going to slip away or some other guy is going to take her away from them.
So, these guys try to keep their partner away from any “threat.” At first, a girl might be flattered by such attention, thinking that the guy really cares about her. It’s only a matter of time, however, until the girl realises that the reason the guy is so territorial about her is not because of who she is but because of his own insecurity about her and himself.
So, how do you deal with your boyfriend’s jealousy and control issues? Many girls simply walk away from the relationship with a jealous boyfriend, not being able to tolerate that kind of treatment and lack of basic freedom, trust and respect from their partner. In many cases, walking away is the only option, as many guys are chronically unable to admit that they are pathologically jealous and do something about it. If you really love the guy, however, and you are committed to at least doing what you can to make the relationship work, it’s worth at least trying to fix the problem before you leave him.
Address jealousy as soon as possible. The first and the necessary step that every jealous guy should take is to realise and acknowledge that he has a problem – that his behaviour is irrational and detrimental to the relationship.
Like any other challenge, overcoming jealousy is not a matter of reading one article or getting one tip from a friend. There are no overnight solutions to this problem. But if your boyfriend recognises recognises both, his problem and the fact that it takes work and serious self reflection to overcome his jealous an control issues, this will make his success in overcoming those issues far more likely.